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Please accept my condolences in the loss of your father two weeks ago. I know and understand what a difficult time this is for you.
Everything you are experiencing is absolutely "normal." Please realize that your body has been basically running on adrenaline to keep up with everything at all times while your dad was alive. Now, you are not only experiencing the grief but, also the "coming down" affect from being on high alert so to speak. Think of it like the saying "what goes up must come down." It doesn't even have to happen in death but in the ups and downs of the actual caregiving situation. I'm experiencing it today as a matter of fact after just having had a reprieve with my mom for a couple of months and having to get back on that "adrenaline fueled treadmill" as you called it since last Friday. I barely was able to make lunch for my husband and I.
So don't be too alarmed at the fact that you are just able to do the bare minimum or bare necessities. Try not to feel rushed with taking care of your dad's affairs. If you need to, just make a list of what needs to be done in priority order and start chipping away at it one by one.
Believe me I understand the high stress of "worrying" about our loved ones. I've been looking after my mom for 16 years now since my dad died in 2004 when I was 41. I'm almost 58 now and I get tired much more quickly and stay tired for a lot longer.
The best thing is not to be so hard on yourself and think you need to be or feel a certain way. We will all experience all of the events you mentioned above differently. Some of us cope better than others and are able to pull themselves up by the bootstraps and others of us may feel more like we're just floundering. You may also be having bouts of depression which would show up in the symptoms you described. If you feel you would benefit from grief counseling, maybe you can look into that. You can find all kinds of things to read about the grieving process just on the internet alone if you didn't want to talk with someone.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers - that God would give you rest and peace in your heart as you grieve and try to carry on with life that keeps moving while you feel like you're standing still.
there is a free floating anxiety/depression surfacing.
May God grant you grieving mercies and strength during this difficult time.
It is amazing how strong our bodies are, your experience tells me that you have been under a tremendous amount of stress and you are now paying for that. Be kind and gentle with yourself, rest as needed and take care of you for a while.
Try to push yourself a little but allow yourself some time to just take care of yourself and the things that need to be taken care of.
With time, you will feel better and get back to normal. Slowly but surely.
I felt forntunate that I had to go back to work 2 weeks after her death, but in truth, I was going through the motions, not really being all that productive.
With all the stress of COVID related stuff and your personal family drama, I can only imagine how drained you must feel.
Stay hydrated, sleep as much as you need to and grieve on your own schedule. (((((Hugs))))