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My failure was not going by my instincts (pull them all and get dentures) instead of being talked into "saving what we can". Now were almost a 5,000 already, and the ones we were trying to save, have caused the most pain and wasted time,effort and money.
My Accomplishment is INSISTING the dentist give me emergency pain pills, since the problems usually happen on the weekend.
Lesson learned....go with my gut, it's always right.
Tonight I managed to change my father's catheter clip and it was no big deal... I'd previously been trying to get him to do it, the nurses have shown him how to do it a few times, but he's simply not going to, he doesn't seem to have the ability/skill to pay attention to his care much at all, for whatever reason. So even though I knew it needed to be done once a week, I was just resisting doing it myself because it meant having my hands very near my father's manparts. Well, tonight I gave him a bowl of beef and noodles and while he sat on edge of his bed and ate it, I changed the clip like it was the most normal activity in the world. I'm a PRO now, I tell ya!
Failure:
Eh, probably just that I'm not being as productive as I'd like to be these days, spending lots of time on social media sites and watching videos on Internet. I think my father's super sedentary ways have rubbed off on me a little.
the treatment was sprung on me unexpectedly , then worked in a matter of days , now only 3 weeks left -- who wouldnt be flipping out ?
hepc is a m - f . its all about fatigue . i dont need fatigue , got things to do ..
10am and already a failure for me. Got upset with Mom because she told me all day yesterday that she had changed her incontinence pad every time I asked her - yet when I changed the trash bag this morning in the bathroom, it was empty. At one point yesterday, her pad was so soaked it literally fell out of her undies and slid down her leg onto the floor - I came out of my room after folding laundry and found her holding in her hand, trying to hide it. (sigh)
I didn't get upset in the sense that I was yelling or anything, but I did sit down and remind her (again) that she needs to change her pad frequently, or everything in the house smells like urine. She got all defensive and swore up and down that she changed it several times yesterday - I brought her the trash bag and showed her that she hadn't. She looked very confused and said she thought she had changed it. Then I showed her the protective pad from her chair that had a large stain on it from her sitting on it. So, she went and changed it (I checked the trash) and then laid down without showering, in her smelly nightgown. Argh!
I am trying so hard to let her retain some of her independence and not take over every aspect of her life, but darn it....this stinks.
We moved onto this forgoten dead end road a couple of years ago off a fancy estate but now it has been discovered and a buiding frenzy has erupted. The lots are wooded 5 acres and quite steep but for the last few days 18 wheelers have been rumbling past hauling dirt to level a lot. people want level lawns and a landscaping service!!!!!!!!! I like my rocks
When someone is making fun of us, it's hard to remember that witnesses/observers are most unlikely to agree with that someone. But it's true.
Still bloody annoying to have an enjoyable conversation brought to an abrupt end, of course, but better annoying than hurtful.
And maybe cut back her outing rations, especially when you have something better to do? Not to hurt or punish her, but why make the sacrifice if it isn't really necessary?
What would you do with this behavior? My mother is normally a nutcase but otherwise healthy. I am thinking: I can't change her. Being defensive or angry just makes her harder to deal with so standing up for myself becomes my own punishment. Adopting an attitude of apathy.
Any suggestions? Talking in a nice way doesn't work. I don't know if anything but ignoring her works for me. It's a no win every time. She does this more and more often because she can't hear or respond to people appropriately more and more.
She'll be 93 this week.
And all I said in response to all this was: "Mother. Use your frame."
Can I have my medal for not blowing up and lecturing her for the 6,258th time now, please?
Actually I will settle for a gin and tonic, which I am off to pour. Hope everyone's had a good day.
long story , about feeling so good i cant be held back , mixed with the nurses voices in my head telling me not to overdo it ..
I sat my butt on the deck in the 89* temperature for 1 1/2 hour and it felt sooooo good...
I deserved it after all the darn snow we had here in MA this winter, not to mention all the shoveling I did!
Accomplishment: Picked up the paint and supplies for the upcoming work on the house, contacted the city office and discussed the permits needed for possible extension of the deck and paving of the driveway (deck may not be possible, but driveway definitely is), and checked pricing on the varnish needed to refinish the wood floors in 2 rooms and a hall in the house - $200 on top of what I just spent for the paint and supplies, so that's going to have to wait another week or two.
Planned accomplishment for tonight: catch up on all this freakin' work so I can invoice my clients, which should have been done over the weekend!
what has a total of 60 feet and 20 teeth ? the front row of spectators at a molly hatchet concert..
i must have already died, im under the care of a total of 7 unbelievably hot looking women right now. that isnt even counting the receptionist . i play the dumbazz but i know theyre having as much fun as i am .. the indy va rocks !!
i suggest emails for all business. one can proof what theyre sending, and the business covered is indesputable later .
i had a great day . took edna for early morn , fasting blood test , then to see her SIL in a nearby town and still got 4 hours of wood cutting in . poured rain all day, it felt lovely on these dehydrated bones ..
often i cant tell you what day or even what month it is . who cares ? if its nice i work, if it rains the work shifts to the garage.
got busted on a surprise drug screen at va. couple of zans , couple of beers .
sue me , im not running for chief commander of nato , just kill the d*mn hepc. lol .. they were all nice about it and in fact werent all that surprised .. my punishment is biweekly visits with doc ly*on . bummer, shes hottern hammered hell ..
listening to a h*llish good alice concert and cooking edna some apples and rice..
lifes only going to get better , thats whats incredible..
family cookout for ednas 91 st b -day sat night. normally wouldnt be interested but wth ? ive got the firewood b**ches . lol
My accomplishment is that I cleared out an awkward cupboard filled with tupperware and other plastic containers we never use. This cupboard is useless as when you open it...it goes back about to a depth of say 18 inches,,,then it turns to the left going back another 2 feet. How do you use a cupboard like this? Anyway, I threw out all the plastic ware we never use so I can utilize it for more functional kitchen items for cooking. I will get a P-gun to label to the inside with Sharynmaries's kitchen items. If hubby continues to store things here, I will tell him I am throwing it out.