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I don’t suggest that I am a wimp .. I am thankful for being strong. I pray to continue to be . I have a blessed life . Thanks for knowing I am not in this alone . It means the world to me . A
Will keep you in my prayers and hang in there.
Is it possible that your husband thinks that it's all the care-giving that's bringing you down, and not the "lack of support"?
Dad lives in a care community. Does he participate in activities? Make friends with other residents? Is your being there in any way preventing that from happening?
Your husband is encouraging you to get a job? Have you thought about using your extensive care-giving as something you could put on a resume? Are you interested in being employed at a care facility?
I have two twisted sissies. I cared for mom for four years with nearly no help and absolutely no support! They accused me of financial exploitation, I was investigated by APS, case closed quickly. They took me to court still not believing there was no exploitation. Court assigned conservator who audited mom's accounts. Did not find anything and twisteds still did not believe it. Course I never told anybody about the money tree in the yard that I kept well picked. 😎
Be careful what you wish for. Sons are just as capable to care for folks as daughters. Some just want nothing to do with it. My sissies didn't. Some just do not have the same compassionate traits that you do. Be proud of that and know you will never be able to say just the right thing to get them to change.
has some merit. When we are constantly caregiving we can lose ourselves in it and
before long our constant topic of conversation becomes our "patient' and their various
needs. We can forget ourselves in all the details of care.
So while bullying and with holding support are only hurtful to you, consider that in all that noise that while continuing to visit and care for your father in his time of need, remember to consider yourself and your needs as well.
Hang in there, you're doing a wonderful thing being there. I'm sure your father is incredibly grateful to you. It's time with him you'll never get back. Your brothers
are missing out.
People are who they are. We can not change them nor expect them to be who we are. Your brothers are navigating this life as they see fit, so are you. Let their choices and comments go. The same with other people " bringing you down". You cared for people in their times of need, when you didn't have to. And that is the beauty that's you!
Sit happy and content with what you've done and how you've lived your life. Some of us are givers and some takers. We're not all built the same....and that's ok.
You have a lot to be proud of, Don't give that away by what others say.
Stand by your dad. Two hours a day isn't asking that much from hubby.
God Bless You!