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Hold onto all the good in your mom and support her down this road. She may have a few more " perk ups" left in her yet.
((((((Hugs))))))))))!
Some of you know my story (Barb! Freqflyer!), as I've been on and off this site over the past few years. I've been expecting my mom to die for like three years now - have to throw in an LOL here, and a nod to Roz Chast (who, if you don't know, wrote the most wonderful, sad/funny memoir about her parents. Humor is so important in these situations!) There have been so many close calls with my mom, but she is a crazy strong woman who keeps bouncing back. Just when I'm about to call the funeral home, she wants to go out for dinner. She was in septic shock last April, yet joking with the doctors and saying she felt fine, which they could not believe. I am so used to her being at death's door and then rallying that it's hard to believe she is mortal at this point.
This time, though, I really think it is the beginning of the end. She is not acutely ill, and dr was there today and says her vitals are fine, but something has shifted in the past couple of weeks. She eats and drinks, but she sleeps most of the day, stares at the ceiling a lot, and doesn't say anything unless you ask her something - rare for her. She used to call me at least once a day, and now she never does, and doesn't even answer her phone. Her cell phone, always on her bed, next to her functioning hand, has been her lifeline, but now she lets it ring without picking it up.
Most of you can relate to this, I'm sure: You know how you know someone so well, even on the most minute level? I am so familiar with my mother's hands and nails and rings (still on her fingers) and expressions. When I give her a hand mirror, she makes the exact same "looking in the mirror" face that she has since I was 5. Those are the things that it will be weird never to see again.
My mom was with her mother when she died, at 56, from an unspecified "female" cancer. She pretty much hated her mother, who didn't talk to her for 5 years because she married a Jewish man. When I was born, her mother wanted to meet me, so she took me to see her, at which point she was dying. My mom was brave enough to hold her hand as she died, while her sister, who was close with their mother, cowered in the other room.
Ack - thanks for letting me spill all this. I've had some wine, I confess. : )
I know, I'm nuts!
Oh the "what ifs", we all go through that. Try not to let the what-ifs control your life. A company will understand if you need to take a couple days off. I think going back to work quickly is your best bet. Working and being around other people will help you feel centered.
I use to be a big what-if person... what if I went away for a half a day and Dad fell. Well the time I was way I couldn't enjoy myself as that was always in the back of my mind. It was hard to shake. And Dad didn't fall, so a half a day wasted worrying about something that didn't happen. Oh well, we are only human.