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When you decide to face reality that a bag of groceries that used to cost $20 now cost $65, and a gas and electric bill is now $300 a month, perhaps then you'll understand why unpaid caregivers need money to survive.
What the world has come to is that nobody can afford to live anymore. Unless you are super wealthy, which you must be for even posting such a question in the first place.
It's others judging my opinion that is wrong, when they don't know my story or others stories.
And some people are just not made to be caregivers , that the way they where born , that is just the way life is. Society forcing someone to be a caregiver, that is just not a caregiver type of person, is a recipe for disaster, aging abuse, suicide, you name it
As far as Duty, I do nothing out of duty, I do what I do out of love, if my husband said it is my duty, to cook his meals, that will be the last meal I cook, untill he changes his perspective.
And another thing is people are living a lot longer, for a lot longer unhealthy than they ever use to.
I think the problem here is the unconditional "should".
Should an adult child give up their livelihood, or their marriage, or raising their minor children in order to provide hand's on care for their parents?
What about mentally ill, abusive or abandoning parents?
If the parents has funds to replace the child's wage-earning ability, where is the problem with paying them for care?
We posters are from all over the world, with differing economic means and personal situations.
I could never have cared for my mom myself. I could not afford to give up paid work; I live in a tiny apartment; my mom and I were like oil and water most of the time. Fortunately, mom had the funds to private pay for various levels of care, including nursing home care for 4 1/2 years after a stroke.
I also did not have the medical training to detect when mom was suffering from UTIs, CHF symptoms or depression. She got far better care in the NH than she would have had at my incompetent hands.
Who was paying your bills while you were doing all that? Not everyone has an endless amount of free money rolling in like you evidently did. People have to work and be paid to support (and insure) themselves.
Take that silver spoon out of your mouth and observe the real world sometime.
Your obligation is to your children. Their obligation is to THEIR children, NOT TO YOU.
Parents are obligated, after their children are raised, to raise funds to care for themselves as they age. Not to burden the most free time of their own children's lives with their care.
As to Christian duty, it seems each Christian makes up the rules according to his own church's interpretation. As I am a non believer I am obligated not by any idea of a god dispensing rules, so I guess I am out on that one. I believer we have a moral obligation to our children TO BE SURE. And to ourselves to make the best life we can, and to give support we choose to give to those we choose to give it to.
You have made your choices. I honor your right to make your own choices. I am thrilled to hear you were happy in the choices you made and are comforted that you made them. You do not, however, make choices for the rest of the world. You certainly can hold opinions about it, and we appreciate hearing them.
Best out to you.
Don't make me repeat the father eagle carrying his eaglets across the raging waters story. All here are thoroughly bored with it, ha ha.
Quite frankly, I find your post judgmental and unkind to those in situations that you can not fathom.
Getting paid or not has nothing to do with love or Christian duty.