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You are in WAAAY over your head. SO kind and thoughtful and so clueless.
I recently stepped AWAY from a similar situation. Finally realized that it was not my circus nor my monkey to be babysitting,
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING helped. I could do nothing right. I was yelled at, almost daily, I was put down, all my hard word ended up each day in a total shambles. My "neighbor" was simply a taker and so was her family. They were at the base of the "abusing". Didn't appreciate a single solitary thing I did for them (her).
I'd leave a spotless house everyday at 4 and come back at 9 the next am and it looked as if a tornado had gone through the house.
Only took me 5 months to figure out what an idiot (well meaning) I was.
I quit, Period, Told the family that I was leaving town and then made plans to do so. Said I wouldn't return in a CG position.
AND I did not. Went cross country for 10 days, and somehow the family made it work, too me over 3 months to be able to speak to her again...there she still sits, filthy house as bad as the day I started, I guess she's waiting for another "angel".
Some people are users and sadly, they abound!
This is not your problem to fix. You can out in your 2 cents worth, but stay away from the day to day. Just with a bad back---you'll be toast in 2 weeks.
First, she is wheelchair bound in a trailer! I worked for a Visiting Nurse Assoc. Our nurses had a hard time getting a patient out of his bedroom because they couldn't maneuver the wheelchair out into the hall. Fire hazzard!
Does she have black mold and a leaky roof too? Not a good place to bring her back to. I just looked up side effects of black mold.
"In addition to coughing, sneezing, and irritated eyes, exposure to black mold can come with a range of other serious symptoms. ... A mold problem can cause you to experience dizziness, anxiety and depression, and even hallucinations."
Being wheelchair bound, how are you going to get her out of the trailer?
It will be easier getting her into LTC now than later. I think ur Mom's health should be your main priority.
If you chose to go with this, check with Medicaid and see if the woman would qualify for homecare. Even an aide to bath her. Your local Office of Aging may be able to help. If she is sent home with PT to be done in the home, take advantage of the aid they provide.
Not sure about who to turn to about the roofs and mold. Do you have homeowners on your trailers? I live in NJ and the shore points are still dealing with Sandy damage.
Regarding the the black mold, I just googled “elderly home repair assistance in Texas” and came up with this website. I don’t know anything about it but it might be a place to start to try to get a grant for the repairs. Also if you are a church member, perhaps your pastor could put you in touch with a volunteer group that could help with repairs.
www.elderoptionsoftexas.com/home-improvement-programs-for-texas-seniors.htm
I believe some members are from Texas and hopefully have more specific info for you.
Please don’t feel that your questions are trivial, or be embarrassed to admit you don’t know stuff. There is no book on how to do this! I have asked many health related questions lately...the most recent about how to get my Mom to blow her nose. Ha! Talk about trivial!
I know your heart is in the right place, but you need to be realistic. This is a massive undertaking. I know because I am sole caregiver for my husband. It’s a very, very hard job. And you potentially could be doing it for two people. You are a kind and loving person and none of us here would want you to burn yourself out.